I'm really excited to start refining some of the details of my ceremony/reception. In case you're fairly new around here, I'm getting married in April and I'm trying to do my entire wedding/reception for as close to $2,000.00 as possible.
Yes, I read that the average wedding costs something like $18,000.00 and I 1) don't have that kind of money to spend and 2) don't want to spend that much money on my wedding. So, I decided to try and do this for as close to $2k as possible so that I don't incur debt for my wedding.
So, with that, I've decided to take on a number of projects that are usually done by other (paid) people. The first one being that I've decided to make my own bouquet and the bouquets of my sisters (bridesmaids) as well. I really think I can do it and there are lots of tutorials and videos for making a pretty bouquet. I want it to look a little messy and I'm using lots of wildflowers, so I really think it will work.
Another decision I made is to be my own wedding planner. I've done this before and am confident in my abilities. It is a little more stressful in the long run, but saves a tremendous amount of money.
One of my favorite things to plan so far (which is also the largest stressor) is the reception. I'm doing a self-catered, dessert reception immediately following the ceremony. I will have cake (or a few cakes/cupcakes), a candy buffet and a milk and cookies station. Planning the look of the dessert reception has been easy. I'm going with 3 colors and using mostly stripes as a pattern. Below are two of the reception mood boards using actual details I plan on incorporating. The mason jars will be tied with the striped ribbon instead of the gingham in the picture.
Yes, there will be a plethora of Oreos and they may or may not be stacked up and arranged like a cake. :) Also, I've decided to forgo some of the "prettier" candy often used in candy buffets like candy buttons, swizzel sticks, taffy, etc. for candy that M and I love like Sour Patch kids, Junior Mints and Sour Gummy Worms. I like the idea of taking ideas and personalizing them a bit for M and myself.
I'm also going to incorporate the colored ribbon on the bouquets and the cake/cakes...both to unify the look of the reception and ceremony and also because I bought 20 yards of each color: pink, navy and green. :)
Can we talk about how expensive wedding cakes are?! Ridiculous. Part of me wanted to do a few smaller cakes (all different flavors) with a unified decor (white icing with the navy/white striped ribbon and flowers) to give our guests different options. Then I thought it might be easier just to do one cake with multiple tiers for everyone.
But with 175-200 people one cake is VERY expensive. The option of multiple cakes still exists. I think it will be easier to do, but not sure how it would work logistically since we won't have enough of each kind of cake for everyone. For example, we may have a chocolate cake that feeds 50, a strawberry cake that feeds 30 and maybe a lemon cake that feeds 40, and so on. But, then, what if everyone wants only one of the cakes? Also, I thought about doing cupcakes. Perhaps doing like 3 kinds of cupcakes and then one small round cake for M and I to cut/eat. But aren't cupcakes really expensive? Sigh. Then I thought about asking a few people I know who are bakers/pastry chefs to make the cakes for me (I would pay of course) but it would hopefully be less expensive than ordering from a bakery...but then I feel bad about asking them. Y'all this is the kind of stuff that keeps me up at night. Not getting married...not making a lifelong commitment...the reception food and cakes!
Those of you who are married...what did you do for your wedding cake?