Tuesday, October 11, 2011

i am 26

DISCLAIMER: This is somewhat of a rant-slash-battle cry-slash-defiant speech. You have been warned.

At my age most of my friends have settled down into their "adult lives". They've gone on to get married or are in the process of getting married. They've started their families. They've started worrying about living in the good school districts. They've started talking about fertility treatments and procedures for more kids.

At my age most of my friends are settled into their career and have hit their job stride. Most of my friends have purchased a home or own property. They live alone. They've started to invest in the stock market.

They seem to have everything together.

In contrast, I'm not married. I'm not even engaged. I don't have any children nor do I even know what school district I live in. I just started a brand new job as a peon...again. I rent a condo. I have a roommate. I haven't invested in the stock market and the only thing I own is my car. (well, technically the bank owns it until I pay it off in 2 more years) I worry about finances, the job market, being alone and failing. I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.

I can't say that I don't regret any part of it. I envy those who seem to have it all together, because I sure as heck don't. I feel like I haven't really started my adult life and I'm perpetually living the life of a 22 year old, over and over.

But I do know that many of these things that I think are "wrong" about my life, truly aren't. They are temporary statuses, not permanent sentences. When I begin to get overwhelmed with how much I HAVEN'T accomplished I need to stop and take a breath.

I am 26.

This is my life right now.

And I'm okay with it.


  1. Love this. I have definitely been there/am there. And while I seem to have fallen into a career, it's not what I pictured. I kind of feel like Jim, "Right now, this is a job. If I progress any further, it'll be a career. If this were my career, I'd throw myself in front of a train"
    Except that I have accidentally progressed further.
    I didn't mean for that to sound as negative as it came across.

    Love you! While you may not have all the things those around you do, you were brave enough to start over somewhere new, and I think that counts for something.

  2. AND you are FUN. :)

    right there with ya. i'm 30. and i do own my own home and my car (finally! ha!) but a lot of stuff isn't where it "should be"

    but often when i find myself discontent with that it is not because i really feel discontent - i just feel a lot of pressure to feel discontent. directly, or indirectly.

    if that makes sense.

    i like who you are and where you're at april!

  3. April.. Every person has their own destiny.. Don't base your standpoint in life off of stereotypes(what "should/shouldn't" be).. God has a plan for you and it doesn't mean it's a concrete plan either but you haven't 1. Had a child out of wedlock 2. Got yourself in debt 3. Been married and then divorced 4. Committed an act of violence or committed a crime 5. Forgotten that you are loved.. If you are not satisfied either where you're at, it's time to pray and use that clarity to be honest with yourself and make changes.. You should be proud of yourself.. :)

  4. Oh girl... I definitely struggle with this!! One thing my mom is always reminding me, that what you see--the life you see other people living isn't as perfect as you might think. Especially with my career I get frustrated that it's not where I want to be as fast as I want it too be. But keep pursuing, pushing. Stay motivated and encouraged! It's not the end!

  5. Don't worry. It will all work out. I'm 30, still rent an apartment, but this year finally moved in by myself. I'll take the little victories. Besides you have the rest of your life to be married and have kids. Enjoy the freedom :-)
    ~kelly, simplykellyblog.com


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